The presence of fear can indicate a sense of impending danger, emotional stress or pain, whether the threat is real or imagined. The anxiety of fear can have a paralyzing and debilitating affect on those that will yield to it’s invading power. I heard an acronym for the word fear that really helped me years ago; F.alse E.vidence A.ppearing R.eal.
Many times the thing that we fear, never happens. When I was a kid, there was always a great relief when the creepy fingers of the monster outside my window, turned out to be the limbs on the tree in my front yard. Yikes! Yet the fear of failure, or spiders; Or the fear of falling; the fear of rooms, feels real for many people. I was on an airplane recently and an older lady asked if I could open the window a little because she had a phobia of being closed in. My immediate thought was apparently she keeps getting back on the plane!
Eleanor Roosevelt once declared, “Do the thing that you fear, and the death of fear is certain.” What a powerful declaration to those that struggle in the face of fear. Claude Bristol in The Magic of Believing, revealed that thoughts become reality because of our subconscious mind, which produces our feelings, instincts, and actions.
What we focus on, is what’s growing in our lives. Focus can bring about fear if we’re focusing on the wrongs things. Thomas Edison said, “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
One great chapter of my mentors book, Failing Forward, by John C. Maxwell, is called “If you’ve failed, are you a failure.” The answer is a resounding, NO! In the seven abilities needed to fail forward, point number one is: Achievers reject rejection. (Read Failing Forward for the other six points)
Someone else’s opinion of you never has to become your reality. If you have to do something afraid, I say do it anyways. You can declare no more fear in your life because you simply did the thing that you feared.
“Fear makes come true that which one is afraid of.” – Victor Frankl
Keep standing on the Rock!